Making Decisions That Go Beyond Black and White

2.3.25

Making Decisions That Go Beyond Black and White

When you're in your “typical” childbearing years, you always get the question, “are you having another one?”. It's all SO personal and there are SO many factors that go into that decision. Physically, can you do another? Mentally, can you do it? What about financially? What does your partner think? What do you guys WANT? I know how incredibly difficult it is to decide… At a point I even asked Google “should I have a 3rd baby”. LOL. 🙈

As I welcome my third baby, I am reminded of the complexities of making decisions…

Beyond Black and White Choices

Some decisions in life seem as straightforward as choosing between black and white—right or wrong, yes or no. But often, the most meaningful choices are found at the point where faith and wisdom intersect.

Take Kachi and me, for example. When we were newly engaged we discussed and agreed on the number of children we would have. It seemed clear-cut and straightforward—a black-and-white decision we were confident about. But somewhere along the journey, we entered the grey: the space where circumstances, emotions, and faith tested our initial decisions.

After our first pregnancy, we revisited our plan. During my second pregnancy, we agreed that if we had a baby boy, we’d stick to two. That would complete our family, and we’d close the chapter.

But, as always, God’s plan is always perfect.

Our second child was a beautiful baby girl. And even though we were overjoyed, the decision to stop at two no longer felt as straightforward as we’d thought. The question of having a third baby wasn’t as simple as a yes or no anymore.

There was this gentle nudge, this quiet whisper in our hearts, that we weren’t done yet.

It wasn’t black-and-white anymore. The decision to try for another baby wasn’t just about what we wanted or what made sense on paper. It became a journey of trusting God’s plan for our family.

Lord, we want a boy. Twin boys, even. However, we trust Your perfect will to be done.

As I prepare to welcome my son, I’m reminded that the most meaningful decisions often happen in those moments of uncertainty, surrender, and faith. It is in those moments that God does His best work.

So here’s my encouragement: Don’t be afraid. Trust God with your plans, and you might just find that His story for your life is far more beautiful than you could imagine.

Life isn’t always black and white, and that’s okay. The grey areas push us to grow, trust, and rely on God’s wisdom rather than our own. So, the next time you’re faced with a difficult choice, remember that God is present in every shade of your decision. With Him, you can make decisions that go beyond black and white—and lead to a life of purpose, faith, and grace.

They’re SO pumped for their baby brother’s arrival, and whenever I see how excited they are, it gives me more confidence about my motherhood journey: birthing my son into the world.